“Log kya kahenge?” (What people will say?) The most common term we all are heard many time in our life, doesn’t matter what your age or gender, background, status or education etc. and if you are woman then must be at least once in day, from childhood it’s been taught that opinion of other people matters a lot.

 I am lucky in this matter as my mom was very strong lady, thanks to my Nanaji (Grandfather) in late fifty, he brought up his children with equality, no gender difference, so my mom passed it on same to us, taught me from childhood to live your life as per your likes and dislikes, dream big and achieve them, never think about people`s opinion as far as you are not doing any criminal activity or crime do whatever makes you feel happy.  As “Log kya kahenge has killed many dreams than anything else in this world”

 Whatever you do people will always have something to say about it. good and bad or both, most of the time bad things because maximum time people like or love to spread negativity, in our society, “Support woman to woman ” this concept doesn’t exist , (there are few expectation ). I notice one thing about women that if there is any beautiful, smart, intelligent, talented, strong and independent lady around them and if everyone is giving her attention and they are not getting any, they will start speeding all bad rumor about her, all negative thing they will spread and no limit to that, so that people will stop giving her attention and will be friends with them or admire them for telling them a truth, I have experienced this in my gym, how other women spread bad worlds about me just to get attention of others or some time their jealously level crossed all the limits, I don’t understand why can’t we all women admire each other, every woman on this earth is unique, beautiful in her own way, they have different talent and expertise in different field, why we have that attitude “uski sadi meri sadi se safed kyu?” .

 Believe me, people who form wrong image about you without knowing you personally, just by listening other people`s opinion and gossiping are just not worth it to have in your life. It is their big loss if they are judging you by someone else worlds/option they may miss the opportunities to know or be with amazing person like you, they will miss a friend like you in their life. It’s their big loss and not yours.  

My Mom always used to say this to me, there are many people who will come to you and tell you that no one talk good about you or someone is talking bad about you but just remember one thing who are telling you this they don’t know that people don’t talk good about them either but the difference is you are not telling them this but they are telling you this, why? because no one taught them “Kuch tao log kahenge log ka kam hai kehna” whenever any negative comes to you it’s should end in your ears it should not go out through you if you spread negativity you will get negativity in return but if you will speared positivity, no guarantee positivity will come to you or no but you will always happy and positive person and you will not need validation from others to make you feel positive or happy So always believe in yourself, leave your life as per your wish, follow your heart, complete your ambitions and goals, complete your bucket list, live your dreams before you die, without thinking too much about “log kya kahenge”

“Train your mind to see the good in everyone in every situation!!”

-Christina Uppal